Jealous Much?

Jealousy – mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry or unfaithfulness.

Jealousy, a feeling that has been around ever since man roamed the earth. Jealousy can apply to many things, but the ones I find where jealousy prevails is in love and wealth and success.

Jealousy in love, is a major cause of break ups. Many partners fear that their partner may not be completely faithful to them and this leads to envy. The usual root for jealousy is either that one person feels that their partner is unfaithful, or that they may see someone as a rival and threat to their relationship. So if you see your partner hugging, someone else infront of you, is that a sign of deceit? Cant people just hug other people and count on their partner having more faith in them and not jump to any conclusions? Sure, your partner may spend a significant amount of time with maybe one person, but that surely isnt reason enough to be jealous. The problems, is we live in a world, where everyone competes with each other. In reality, everyone will eventually become your rival, whether its in love, at work or even school. Asking someone else what they got for their test is a sign of rivalry although it may be more subtle then others. Before voicing your concern to your partner about them possibly being unfaithful, consider all the facts.

Another problem is that guys and girls alike have issues in relationships. When guys think that their girlfriend is cheating on them but dont say anything, they then say that you dont care enough. On the other hand, if guys voice their concern, some girls say that they care too much. So what is the right way to go about in voicing your concerns? Guys, if you see your girlfriend hanging out with other guys, dont automatically assume that they are flirting or cheating on you. Take into consideration all the facts – a big one is if they already have a partner. The other reason that your girlfriend might choose to hang around other guys, is that they dont want to seem clingy. They dont know how you would feel if they spent every waking moment with you. One other thing – you dont own your girlfriend, they have the right to do whatever the hell they want in their own time, and if they dont spend it with you, it doesnt mean they are cheating on you.

Jealousy is also an ugly monster that pops out in the workplace. When several candidates are up for promotion, dont see them as rivals. What if one of those candidates was your best friend? You shouldnt hold a grudge against them, if they rise higher than you, you should be thrilled for them. They may think that you dont like them anymore simply, because they took something of yours. They need your support and to know that there are no hard feelings between you. You can also take the chance to learn what you are doing wrong, and why you didnt get that bonus, or promotion and try harder next time. Remember whatever doenst kill you, only makes you stronger?

So, jealousy is an ugly monster that lives within all of us. Some cant control this beast while others have control over theirs. So next time you see your partner spending time with another person dont automatically assume they are no longer interested in you. Love is a complicated thing  and different people have different needs and wants (that didnt come from me). So dont be a jealous prick.